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5 Myths About Babies

Once I had a baby, I realized that a lot of what I’d heard about infants was wrong. Or at least it didn’t apply to my situation.

Here are five things they tell you about life after birth that often turn out to be untrue.

Misconceptions About Life With Baby

Nursing Takes the Fat Off.

I nursed my two girls for a year each and never lost a pound from it. Nursing made me ravenous. Early on I had to eat a full meal after doing it. I think nursing makes skinny women lose weight but not heavy ones.

Babies sleep a lot.

Before having my first child, I’d heard that babies sleep as much as 20 hours a day. I was told I’d get a lot of work done while my baby snoozed.

But I didn’t get anything done. My first child was up all the time until we “Ferberized” her when she was six months old, letting her cry it out for a few nights so she could learn to sleep on her own.

My second baby slept all the time. You never know what you’re going to get.

Babies are Angelic.

The truth is that babies can be little terrors who cry a lot. I wasn’t prepared for this. With the first, I thought I was doing something wrong. But babies cry when they’re hungry. They cry when they’re tired. They cry for attention. And they cry for no reason at all.

So if baby is wailing, don’t assume it’s your fault. She’s just acting like a baby.

Babies Make Great Travel Accessories.

I found traveling with my first child hell.

The problem is not just changing them on the plane or having them cry amidst the other passengers. The problem is all the gear you have to bring: the stroller, the car seat, the port-a-crib, the baby carrier, the diaper bag, and an extra change of clothes for the plane – just to name a few things on the packing list.

Worst of all, you have to leave behind your beloved infrastructure: the nursing chair, the diaper-changing table, the kitchen where you can find the bottles.

I’ve never been so glad to get home as after traveling with my first baby.

After having the second, I skipped the trip to Washington D.C for my husband’s law conference, which I’d accompanied him on with our first child. It was hard enough to get baby and toddler out of the house. I was happy to stay home.

Mother Knows Best.

Sometimes. But men seem to have a better sense of self-preservation than women do. Dad is often better at drawing the line; my husband was the one who insisted that we “Ferberize” our first child.

Then again, mom may need to train dad for the job. Some men only step up to the plate when their wives allow or encourage them to.

Train him to give the baby a bath. Then back off and let him do it his way.

The Bottom Line On Babies

There is the advice, there are the guide books. Then there is life with your baby.

Do the best you can, and it will all work out.

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